When decorating kids’ rooms for the holidays, creativity counts more than big budgets. With thrift store finds, craft materials and a dash of sparkle, any space can feel special. Bright colors, textures and little touches that build excitement foster joy all season long. Simple Crafts to Spark Wonder An easy craft that kids adore is learning how to make balloon dog https://balloons.online/blog/how-to-make-a-balloon-dog-tips-steps-and-tricks/. Gathering a few balloons and showing children basic twisting techniques allows them to craft their own toys. Little artists feel pride seeing decorations they made themselves. Their grins say the personalized efforts make their space truly merry and bright.
December 29, 2023
Why Adults Should Be Parents But Not Friends to Their Children?
Many parents take pride in being friends of their children. They just say, “We do everything together, we have no secrets and conflicts, I trust the child with my thoughts and anxieties, and they are also open with me.” And such relationships seem to be a perfect role model: there are no misunderstandings, restrictions, and authorities in the family. Nonetheless, don't overly permissive parents confuse their role in the family, rejecting the position of a “giver” and taking the position of a “receiver”?
You are an adult, wise and experienced person. That is why you have no right to blame your child for problems as well as unload your emotions and difficult life dilemmas on them. They are still too small to help you, realize your experiences and give you the very resource that will end your suffering. Moreover, their worldview has not yet been formed. They are vulnerable to the outside world and take everything to heart. For example, "If mom and dad have some troubles, then it happens because of me." And how can the child, who sees themselves as the cause of your misfortunes help you?
It’s exclusively a parental task to guide, take care and support. No matter how old a child is, anyway, you are older and more experienced. Your duty is to teach them to rely on their own resources, help them develop adaptive behavioral strategies, understand and accept themselves, their desires and goals. If a child comes to you for help, you should help them. Do not devalue their fears, silence them or run away from their problems. Your task is to always be in good shape, take care of your resources, mental and physical health to give children a sense of support. If you give up on the kids, they will become neurotics, who are unable to overcome the obstacles of life and defend their right to happiness.
First of all, you should be a parent, not a friend. This does not mean controlling, putting pressure or devaluing their experiences. On the contrary, you should learn to treat them with attention and respect, as well as stop sharing your constant problems. You shouldn’t say all these words like, "I do not love your father because he is too light-minded." or "Your mother is a drama queen." Your child will not help you with the issues, but you can frighten them, undermining a sense of security.
How can you cope with the experiences? You can call your parents or friends. At the worst, you can contact a psychologist, pastor, business consultant or spiritual mentor. They are adults just like you, which means they can understand your feelings. The best option is to seek the support of your spouse. The main thing is to alternate the role of the parent with the role of the wife (husband). Otherwise, the love relationship will lose its thrill, and some insults, claims, obligations, problems of an intimate nature will begin.
Kids Shouldn’t Be Your Sense of Life
A good example of the inadequacy of this position can be found by just looking around. Who hasn't met the families in which the parents put their lives on the altar of child-rearing but got completely the opposite result? One woman dreamed of raising a prodigy so that she simply overdid it. She took the child to different classes and tutors, saved for the best university and even bought her son an apartment in the center of the capital. However, the guy could not stand such pressure and broke down, starting gambling and drinking alcohol. He didn’t become a genius because he didn’t understand what he really wants from life and because he could not justify his mother's hopes.
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Wednesday, August 2, 2017
Leftover Genius, Pampanga Picking, and Berrying Hopes
- Bastille Day Picnic - I made crêpes galore - crêpes aux pommes caramélisées and crêpes jambon fromage. I also tried making macarons
à la meringue Française, but I used rice flour instead of almond flour, and then I was too lazy to wash the sifter, so I didn't sift, so is it really any wonder that they were a dud? The kids still enjoyed them like champs though. I had quite a bit of caramelized apple left over, so I made vanilla cupcakes a week later and frosted them with apple cinnamon buttercream. No picture.
- Pinoy Pickers - We drove over to Pampanga one Saturday to pick up this vintage toy pedal car. My husband got it for the boys, but first he's going to restore it (so maybe it's not really for the boys, lol). Pampanga seems the place to go for picking. That's where my husband bought his classic VW Kombi as well.
- Movie Night Munchies - Friday is movie night at our house unless we're going out. Anyway, we had red sauce pasta earlier for lunch. My second. Cameron, finished off the pasta (vegetable fusilli) for his afternoon snack, picking them straight off the pot until they were all gone (no sauce, just drizzled with some salt and olive oil; he actually prefers his pasta that way.). So we ended up with a lot of left over pasta sauce, tomato with ground beef, and since we had a loaf of bread on the brink of expiration, I decided to combine both into some sort of pizza bread. There was still sauce after that, so I stored it and just yesterday, incorporated it into a second tortilla de patata (the first one just had dill and spring onion). No picture of the tortillas. but there's one of the pizza bread along with the apple cookies I'd also made for Movie Night. Dang, that rain's getting stronger.
- Blooming Mulberry - I'm excited about these flowers! We waited months for this plant to bloom. I don't know if it was the rain or I unwittingly pruned correctly, but whatever - I'm stoked! I'm just praying right now that they actually turn into berries. See those cinder blocks beyond the wall? That's one of the townhouses they're building next door. At least they've painted the firewall, so when I look out my bedroom window, I see a blindingly white expanse. It actually makes me a bit claustrophobic even if there's about 15-20 meters of open space between my windows and that stupid wall. When I stand close to the window, I can see some sky. Ugh, I hate it. These structures have blocked not only the view, but the natural light and mountain breeze as well.
Tuesday, July 4, 2017
Blogging Vlogging Maid
Friday, June 9, 2017
A Different Chocolate Spread, Rufous Night Heron, and Classic VWs
It all boils down to,,, the fact that I blogged today. :D
Tuesday, May 30, 2017
Green Saturday: Marilaque Highway and Palaya Natural Farm
Thursday, May 25, 2017
Marguerite's Summer Art Workshop Experience
Marguerite had a fun month learning drawing and painting at the city's summer art workshop. Every Tuesday, Thursday, and Saturday, we'd drop off the boys at my mom's and then Mark would drop Marguerite and me off at the theater, the venue of the workshop.
My mom, ever the proud grandma, has asked for this painting. She's going to have it professionally framed to be able to show it off on the wall, but for now, it sits on top of the piano.
Now that we've invested in a bunch of art supplies, I think we'll continue lessons. Since I'm cheap, I mean the Internet, particularly YouTube, when I say lessons. That is, until another good deal comes along.
Tuesday, May 9, 2017
Hoarders and Birders
Friday, April 28, 2017
Toddler Destruction and Mayhem
If I didn't want them messing with something, it would be hidden in some locked up drawer and probably never used until they're grown. I've learned my lesson. My eldest made short work of my favorite pearl choker, a gift from my mom, when she was two.