Friday, October 8, 2010

Funny or Heartbreaking... You Be the Judge

I would really like to know how you feel about this video:


My husband emailed it to me, saying it reminded him of our daughter and the time we also made her say goodbye to her binky. I know there are people who believe that she would have given it up on her own when she was good and ready, but she was already 3 and growing more attached by the second. We didn't do it cold turkey though. It was a gradual process, but she was still looking for it the time we made its disappearance final. I remember telling my husband I was going to take time off from my work to focus on helping Marguerite cope with the parting from her binky (that could mean mega-drama at bedtime, which meant exhaustion on my part). All in all, it wasn't as painful or difficult as we had expected it to be. There were tears, but Marguerite got over it quickly.
Anyway, my husband thought the video was funny. I guess in concept it was supposed to be funny, something like a parody. It broke my heart though. I'm not going to comment on the wisdom of the "fanfare" and the enduring effect it may have on the child. Other people have already done that. And it seems the balloon send-off is quite common, so the merits and whatnots of the process will simply have to be discussed elsewhere.
We made the mistake of letting Marguerite watch it on Mark's phone. She finished watching the video before bursting into tears, which made me follow suit (well, just tears rolling down and not actual sobbing like Marguerite).  I was really amazed at the empathy. Of course, she could totally relate anyway, but it has been almost a year since she bade her own binky goodbye. Whatever the binky may be - whether little ones shouldn't be using it anyway - it's still something of a friend (not to mention a powerful force). Expect sweet sorrow at the parting.
I'm just really curious to know how different people react to the video. Do most men find it funny, while most women find it sad? Is it just the moms? Or just the moms who had to deal with goodbyes to a binky? Or just the bleeding hearts? I'd like to know.

12 comments:

Vera said...

Hmm it is sad, and it brought memories of when my niece had to part with her pacifier too. In her case, her grandma threw the paci out and into the creek so she would know that she can't have it back. Ever.

I don't think it's traumatic for little Ava, I'd like to hope that there was more talk between her and her parents than what we heard. She was the one who let go of the balloon, which really says something.

Sharkbytes (TM) said...

Well, I was prepared to be neutral, but I ended up laughing. Ava may be headed for a life as a drama queen. Well... our only baby was Steve, who wouldn't have anything to do with a binky, but we thought he might be the only kindergartner with a bottle! The trauma of getting rid of that bottle as SO bad that it was actually hilarious, but we didn't dare laugh in front of him about it.

He seems to be a reasonably normal adult, although hermit-ish. ;-)

I think this is one of the normal traumas of life we must all pass through.

Nikka said...

I'm blessed with two kids who never had a binky, paci or other addiction. Of course, I may speak too son. Hero is still nursing.

Nikka said...

Oh, and reagarding the video, I think it was pretty sad. Poor kid. I hope they didn't just spring it on her one day.

chubskulit said...

Hashaha I was laughing at the same time crying watching this vid.. I did not let my two kids use pacifiers.

I am now a follower.

The Darkest Night said...

Well...Ava is obvisouly sad, so that makes the video sad...can't see anything funny about a crying little girl... but at the same time I thought it was sweet...looked like a good way to say goodbye to your pacifier....she is clearly old enough, and it seemed to me like the parents handled it well...

Auntie E said...

I remember the Passies going bye bye. One went by garbage truck, She sat at the window and watched, the second child had to let it go. We didn't have a ceremony just told her it had to leave, that it didn't work anymore.. Then the third we offered a replacement, that work out fine. Each one is hard but each child was different in the way they handle it. I think the video shows how we becomes attached to earthly things and then we learn to say goodbye. Do not think this is bad just a learning process.

Josie said...

it's kinda cute and sad to see Ava parting w/ her pacifier... :D

spinninglovelydays said...

Thanks so much, everyone, for taking the time to watch the video and comment about your reaction to it. I guess reactions would really vary. I notice that all of you are female, hee I made my sister and my mom watch as well. My mom found it sad, while my sister alternately laughed and cried, lol.

@Vera: Oh, I think Ava's parents did everything they could to comfort her and make her understand. After all, they went through all that trouble...

@Sharkbytes: Steve would have found a kindred in me, lol. Never used a binky, but didn't give up the bottle until I was 5!

@Nikka: Good for Ty and Hero! :)

@chubskulit: Ava will do wonderfully in theater with this talent to elicit both laughter and tears simultaneously. :)

@Annika: It was rather sweet (although I'm not for any type of balloon send-off for environmental reasons). Ava could see that the faithful binky was given a special adieu.

@Auntie E: It's definitely a lesson in letting go.

@Josie: Ava is so cuute! That's probably one reason why it was heartbreaking seeing her cry. Still so adorable when she cries... that ought to be a capital asset if she does grow up to be a drama queen, lol

kasai said...

aww... at her age she learn to let go of things where she finds too much comfort, for me its a good start in teaching your child the thing called MATURITY :)

just passing by. Have a good day!

I Love-Hate America by Bing said...

It came out funny because of the way the vid was made. It was edited to make it look like a real terjerker -movie....along with the fade-in and fade-out shooting techniques and the music.
But in reality, you always expect kids to cry when something they dearly hold on to , has to go.

spinninglovelydays said...

@Kasai: As the video says, growing up is hard to do... but it's an inevitability. Thanks for stopping by.

@Bingkee: The parents' humor is certainly evident in the video. I would totally have found it funny if Ava didn't make such a sorrowful figure. :)