Saturday, August 1, 2009

Dealing with Somebody Else's Kid

Marguerite has been playing with a four-year-old boy who is a little bit tougher to handle. The problem is that the boy's nanny lets him run around unsupervised, so the job of watching and at times disciplining falls on me when he and Marguerite are playing together (gossip: yaya takes the opportunity to hang out with one of the maintenance guys, lol). The boy lives on the 8th floor and us on the 7th floor. He basically follows us to our floor while yaya stays on their floor, texting and talking to other neighbors or the maintenance guy. The boy is accustomed to getting what he wants (and all along I've been thinking how lenient I've been with Marguerite since I have a policy not to be restrictive as much as possible) and he has not been taught to say "magic words" (Hoy, push me - as though I were his slave, lol). A 6-yr-old girl from our floor usually joins us and the two of them fight like cats and dogs. The girl is very gentle with Marguerite, but the boy really pushes her buttons. To be fair, the boy is also usually nice to Marguerite too (except when he's after something that Marguerite is playing with). With the fights I end up spewing stuff like, "Let's share", "It's much nicer to play together", or just plain "I don't want any fighting". I get too overwhelmed to think up of more positive verbiage. One time, we had a three-way tug and pull thing going on (Marguerite, the boy, and myself) with a container of bubbles (the boy had previously spilled another container of bubbles of Marguerite's and I was preventing a repeat) and they weren't gonna let go (Marguerite usually would have let go as soon as I'd told her to, but she didn't want the boy to win, so she hung on), I crouched down and firmly told the boy, "Look at me. I want you to let go." He took a second or two to consider this and let go. I told Marguerite, "Let Mommy put this away and we'll go inside to play" and she was totally okay with it. So yeah, we usually end up in our apartment where there are more toys to go around (more to clean up afterwards, but that's a small price for peace). Anyway, we're sticking close to the boy's yaya from now on.

4 comments:

Maria@Conversations with Moms said...

I can think of a few parents I know that do the same thing. I end up being the babysitter all the time. I prefer it that way since I wouldn't trust them to babysit my son.

kryzteta said...

Pwede ko bang kutusan yung little boy pag nakita ko sya? hehehe, joke lang. :)

spinninglovelydays said...

@Maria: "I prefer it that way since I wouldn't trust them to babysit my son." - my sentiments exactly

@Christine: No hitting! lol

kryzteta said...

lol! :D